Dishonesty is happening in the world a lot of time. People are not being honest with others, or with their self. In other words; they are lying. I am writing this paper to discuss the causes and effects on lying. Why do people lie? We all have our own reasons for not telling the truth at times. These are the main reasons why people lie: 1. Enhancing their reputation: People lie to make themselves seem better. They may want to impress their friend or their boyfriend/ girlfriend, but they are lying nonetheless.
People may be exaggerating or lying about their skills, accomplishments, belongings, or background to improve their status. These kind of lies usually aren’t seen as bad, since we all do it at times. 2. Avoiding trouble or punishment: People know that their past actions will cause them trouble in the future with either the police or family and friends. They then lie to cover up their tracks. These lies are considered bad since the people who are lying know that they did something wrong and don’t want to be found out. . Sparing people’s feelings or avoiding fights with them: These are also called little white lies. They know telling someone the truth will either hurt their feelings or upset them. The most used example for this is: “Do these pants make my butt look big? ”. The number of men who say “yes” to this question is zero. The number of women whose butt does look big is not zero. These kind of lies are considered the least bad. 4. Lying to hurt others reputation: This one does not need much explanation.
People lie to make other people seem worse. They lie about other people’s actions either to make themselves look better or to get something in return (like love or money). These lies are considered the very worst, because these lies will only hurt people and the only ones who ever have anything to gain from it are the people who lie themselves. What are the results of lying? Lying will most likely never stop. Once people started to lie they will keep lying. At this point lying is both the cause and the effect of lying.
This will go all the way up to the point where they simply can’t stop lying. According to psychologists there are 4 major reasons for this: 1. Reinforcement: People lie to see if they can get away with it. This usually starts at school. Students have excuses why they have not done their work. After they found out they could get away with it, they will have a more bold lie next time, and after that an even bolder than the second one. They will lie just to see if they can get away with it. 2.
Memory distortion: After people have lied once about something that happened in the past, they will have to tell that exact same lie the next time someone asks about that particular event. After they keep telling that story it might become part of their long-term memory. When they recall what happened in a later period of time, they forget that they told a little lie to make it seem better and it becomes a false memory. The question is whether they are really lying at this point. If they are telling something which they think is the truth, it is not really considered lying. . Protection of positive sense of identity: People want to believe that they are ethical, honest and morally upstanding. They will go through all sorts of mental shenanigans to maintain this view, even when their behavior is in direct conflict with their ‘reality’. Rather than admit that they lied, cheated, or worse, they twist the facts around so that, in their minds, they didn’t. 4. Self-serving biases: Psychologists pointed out that we set one guideline to judge ourselves and another to judge others. As I said earlier, our own guideline is pretty lax.
Often times we blame things on the situation, and not ourselves. When we catch others doing something that goes against our guidelines however, it becomes a different story. We now see these people as bad, or morally defective. We now believe that they are bad people no matter what they do. Just like how (in our minds) we change reality to make ourselves look better, we do the exact same thing to make others look worse. People lie all the time, and they will always keep lying. The truth is still valued more than a lie in most cases, but I don’t think lying is always bad.
It can however make a simple situation much worse. The way to prevent lying is simply to tell the truth once in a while. Admit that you’ve done something wrong and move on. This really makes much more of a difference than you think. It will prevent you from lying about it in the future and it will show people that you’re mature enough to admit when you’re wrong. As long as we are willing to forgive others for lying to us, we can let them forgive us for lying to them. Because in the end we all do lie.
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